Softly Unfiltered

Ashlyn & Blake 97 - Who Really Leads? | Unlearning Patriarchy, Submission & What Leadership Actually Means

Hosted by Ashlyn and Blake, two multifaceted Black women based in Houston, Softly Unfiltered is where soft meets honest. Each week, we get real about personal growth, healing, navigating corporate America, and the messy, funny, and complex realities of modern dating. From breaking generational cycles to finding our voice in spaces that weren't built for us, our conversations blend honesty, humor, and hard truths—all rooted in our lived experiences. Whether we're swapping stories, tackling trending topics, or unpacking the unspoken rules of friendship, relationships, beauty, ambition, and womanhood, we're here to remind you that you can be soft and strong, ambitious and at peace, healed and still healing. If you've ever felt like you're balancing a hundred different versions of yourself, welcome. This is a space for the multifaceted girlies. Pull up a seat. The group chat is live. 💕 New episodes every Wednesday.

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Softly Unfiltered

Episodes

Who Really Leads? | Unlearning Patriarchy, Submission & What Leadership Actually Means

Never Lose Yourself | Why Choosing Yourself Is Self-Preservation

Stop and Smell the Roses | High Achievers, Rest Guilt & Being Present

Does Independence Protect Black Women, or Is It Keeping Us Lonely?

Why Is It So Hard for Black Women to Be Average? | Twice as Good, Rest & Overachieving

The Good Black Girl | How Being Good Follows Black Women Into Adulthood

Finish the Damn Thing. Stop Starting. Start Finishing.

Keep the Promises You Make to Yourself | Coach Zha on Pilates, Self-Trust & Discipline

Knowing When to Walk Away | Jobs, Friendships & Relationships

Strong or Struggling? | Why Black Women Struggle Asking For Help

All I Need to Do Is Stay Black and Die | The Pressure to Make Everyone Else Comfortable

What If Changing Direction Was the Best Thing That Ever Happened to You?

Why Are Girls Low Key Weird? | The Truth About Female Friendships and Female Rivalry

You're Not Asking for Too Much, You're Just Done Settling | Standards vs. Settling

She Has Everything But A Man | Why a Woman's Life Is Never Allowed to Just Be Enough on Its Own

You Can Be Confident and Still Have Low Self-Worth | Why We Accept Less Than We Deserve

The Dating Insecurities You Have When You Grew Up Invisible | Black Girl Dating Experience

Dating the Potential Rich Man | When Believing in Someone Becomes Emotional Labor

Confidence, Self Obsession, and Breaking Out of Survival Mode Feat. Erica Ware The Confidence Coach

Why We'll Spend $500 on Beauty But Feel Guilty About Everything Else

The Money Talk Nobody Wants to Have About Dating | Standards, Finances and Compatibility

Building a Personal Brand as a Black Woman Feat. Asya (@conqueringasya) | Beauty, Softness & Success

Is Success Supposed to Feel This Anticlimactic? | Ambition, Burnout and Finding Fulfillment

Becoming a Pretty Wealthy Woman ft. Caitlyn Kumi | Personal Branding, Dating and Corporate Life

Is Taking Things Slow Healthy or Avoidant?

Do Women Owe Men Feminine Energy If the Man Isn’t Providing Masculine Leadership?

Should Black Women Stop Dating Men Who Grew Up on Survival Until They Go to Therapy?

Is Loneliness the Cost of Outgrowing Chaos?

Is Outgrowing People a Natural Part of Adulthood or a Failure of Loyalty?

Do Black Women From Stable Homes Get Punished for Not Having a “Struggle Story”?

Why Does Choosing Peace Feel Less Impressive Than Choosing Ambition?

Why Is Women’s Confidence Seen as Ego?

Are We Actually Healed or Just Better at Explaining Our Trauma?

Is Healing Making Us Less Tolerable to People Who Benefited From Our Silence?

Is Sisterhood Making Us Avoid Hard Conversations? Friendship Boundaries, Emotional Honesty & Growth

Is Independence Actually Emotional Self-Protection For Black Women? Let’s Be Honest

2025 Wasn’t What We Expected: Here’s What It Taught Us About Becoming Her

Love Languages Change When You Heal (And That’s the Point)

Adulting Is Ghetto: The Truth About Work, Money, Loneliness & Boundaries

Not Black Enough? Movies, Food & The Unspoken Rules of Blackness

Is Having a Boyfriend Embarrassing? Privacy, Soft Launching & The Politics of Being Seen in Love

The Truth About Becoming That Girl: Inner Work, Identity & What Social Media Won’t Tell You

The Things That Give Us the Ick: Pet Peeves, Irritations & Random Rants

Redefining Success as Black Women: Pressure, Burnout & Finding Your Freedom

The Friendships That Shaped Us — Part 2: Adoption, Identity & Never Feeling “Black Enough”

The Friendships That Shaped Us Part One —A Special Anniversary Episode with Our Best Friends

Why Do Black Women Have To Be Everything All At Once?

La’Torria Lemon: Building a PR Empire & Making Moves on Heart & Hustle

The Dilemma of a Woman in Her 30's Part Four: Why Love Hits Differently After 30

The Dilemma of a Woman in Her 30's Part Three: Becoming HER