Confidence

How many relationships have you spent walking on eggshells? How many relationships has your partner felt that way? I live-coach a listener two months in with a guy who’s all in. She’s met his family. Then she sees a picture of his ex at his parents’ house, and all hell breaks loose. To be honest, I relate: I couldn't maintain a relationship because I was too reactive. I wish someone had given me the guidance I give you today. I also talk about being nonchalant after too many failed talking stages, and being happy but still craving a relationship. If you're ever considering coaching, apply here: https://confidencechris.com/mentorship-application Chapters: 02:03 Listener Situation: Fear of Him Getting Back With His Ex 33:55 Failed Talking Stages But Wanting a Relationship

Are you dating, or are you collecting proof that somebody wants you? This week I'll tackle two questions. The first is about how to not get too attached in the talking stage, and what to do if you keep getting ghosted after good dates. Before I get to those, I share some wicked perspectives on reality and how I cut off my own validation: no story views, no likes, no casual dating, no DMing. It's pretty wild that right now I don't have a single person I'm interested in. I might have ADHD, but I don't believe in it, and that's a good way to describe this episode. Ready to break the pattern, apply to work with me: https://confidencechris.com/mentorship-application Chapters: 00:00 Moody In a Transition 02:04 Arguing About Purpose At A Dinner Table 18:16 Cutting Off The Validation 27:58 I Sat In Stillness 35:15 Talking Stage Without Getting Attached 50:36 Ghosted Even When The Date Was Good

Boundaries Workshop Sign-Up: https://app.confidencechris.com/boundaries-pop-up-sign-up I found the secret to getting back into your good energy. It's actually really simple, yet so insidiously hard. Did you know that you are one direct communication away from freedom? Let's talk about it. I'll dissect three situations from people who are all post-relationship and all doing the same thing: trying to think their way out of a feeling. One of them wanted me to confirm that a guy's behavior was weird, but what she actually needed was to feel the disappointment and let go of solving it. Maybe your spark is on the other side of letting go of what isn't for you. Ready to break the pattern, apply to work with me: https://confidencechris.com/mentorship-application Chapters: 00:00 Free Boundaries Workshop 01:22 Getting Your Spark Back 19:41 Her First Date, Then He Unfollowed Her 33:12 Trying to Change Someone Who Won't Change 46:07 If the Shower Is Cold, Someone Else Is Using the Water

You're not missing them, you're missing a feeling. Let me explain. But first, I share a triggering message I received from a friend pointed at my avoidance. I'll give you an alternate perspective on how to handle harsh energy from those closest to you, while weaving in emotional wounds from how I grew up, and the layer of distance every girl I've dated has felt with me. I also cleared the decks again in my dating life, and I'll explain why easy and light still counts as saying no to yourself. Then two situations: a guy strategizing his final text, and a woman waiting on her gym crush to make a move (and my opinionated thoughts on women making the first move in general). Ready to break the pattern, apply to work with me: https://confidencechris.com/mentorship-application Chapters: 00:00 You're Missing a Feeling, Not a Person 11:12 Putting All Your Peace in One Person 17:29 Why I Cleared the Decks Again 23:54 How My Avoidance Affects Others 39:25 He Badly Wants Her Back 54:49 Girls Shooting Their Shot First

Stop playing footsies with people who will never give you what you want. This episode is about getting deeper with yourself and your reactions. Many people feel stuck in relationships where they are frustrated, angry, and misunderstood. I'll give a personal example of how I recently got triggered when a friend showed up late, leading to verbal jabs and mental disconnection. I’ll break down how anger is usually a surface mask for underlying fear and why being "present" is the hardest work you'll do. I'll discuss the power of taking action on your truth, and how that action precedes the clarity you want. I also answer why guys go cold after sex and how to stop being indirect with your goals. Ready to break the pattern, apply to work with me: https://confidencechris.com/mentorship-application Chapters: 00:00 Action Precedes Clarity 17:13 Being Indirect About What You Want 52:15 Why Guys Go Cold After Sex

This week came out of nowhere. I feel like I got sucker-punched with some difficult feelings and some hard truths. This week's title is seeking heartbreak, which is something I told myself I wanted to do. I've been sick of running away from what I desire, but what's funny is that I asked, and I received just as quickly. I also made a major realization about how deep my avoidance runs. I've been so focused on not acting from fear that I closed off the possibility that people might actually just love me (mind-blowing to me). I get into why you can't separate love from fear, and how our desires inherently bring anxiety. I will also tackle how to handle someone being unresponsive. This episode is your push to say what you need to say, then let the rest go. Ready to break the pattern, apply to work with me: https://confidencechris.com/mentorship-application

Do they ever come back? It's time to end the debate once and for all. I'll also talk about why you want them back in the first place (trigger warning). Before we get there, I reflect on my recent fuck it attitude I have gotten for life lately. I get into the way we all communicate indirectly: the jabs you call jokes, the "I just miss the friendship" story your brain feeds you, and them going cold on you. I finish off with what to do when you're happy being single, but also want a relationship. I will tell you why it's hard for you to attract genuine love into your life when you're obsessed with solitude. Ready to break the pattern, apply to work with me: https://confidencechris.com/mentorship-application Chapters: 00:00 Being Direct About Your Feelings 27:00 Will They Come Back and Regret Leaving? 44:07 Balancing Wanting a Relationship while Loving Being Single

When someone doesn't choose you, is it really about you? Let me tell you why it's not personal. Before I get into that, I pour my little heart out about feeling a little run down. I'll reflect on how tough it is to say no in the moment and how your exhaustion is a signal to recalibrate. Then I answer a question about handling the silent treatment without letting it wreck your confidence, saying a final goodbye, and being so far away from self-trust. Ready to break the pattern, apply to work with me: https://confidencechris.com/mentorship-application Chapters: 0:00 Checking In: I'm Run Down 14:14 Life Is Inherently Purposeless 27:19 What If You Didn't Need to Matter? 35:46 Situation: The Silent Treatment 49:39 Value Mindset vs. Alignment Mindset 55:07 Situation: One Last Goodbye 59:20 Situation: I Don't Trust Myself

Most guys have a dream car, I have a dream cat. We are not the same. The cat does happen to be $15,000 though. Yikes, so my friend yelled at me, but then it hit me… You might be wondering what this has to do with a dating podcast episode. Well, because my off-brand desire relates directly to my dating life. No rushing, no settling, no second-guessing. I'll get into how my avoidance used to make me second-guess my choices, and how my relationship wants would get confused for attachment challenges. I'll talk about how to find your truth amidst your attachment patterns, and how both anxious and avoidant people get lost in the fantasy of what could be. Today's episode is about clearing the mist around what exactly needs healing and how to trust your intuition when dealing with inconsistencies from your partner (and I'll use two different situations as an example of that process). Let's do it. Ready to break the pattern, apply to work with me: https://confidencechris.com/mentorship-application Chapters: 0:00…

This week we are getting into the contrast between anxious and avoidant patterns. I wrote something down that I feel describes the dynamic perfectly. I will discuss my own challenges with avoidance and how I am working towards healing it. I also recap a situation from last week's episode where a listener quickly backed off a relationship. I discuss how to lead with more curiosity and less defensiveness. This is not just about being the bigger person, but becoming so much more. Ready to break the pattern, apply to work with me: https://confidencechris.com/mentorship-application Chapters: 00:00 Curiosity vs. Assumption 20:08 High Standards or Just Avoidant 30:27 Avoidant vs Anxious Patterns 53:56 "You're Not Anxious, You're Just Dating a Loser"

My boy asked me .. how do you tell the difference between intensity and actual intimacy (especially in a push/pull dynamic where it's hard to tell the difference)? I share my thoughts on what I feel the difference is and how to identify it. But before I get into that, I play a voice note from a girl who is navigating a similar situation about a guy who communicated his lack of certainty to her, and how she feels guilty for ending it so quickly. I'll share an update about my life, on staying away from safe connections, and reflecting on the pattern of dating women who have mostly approached me (and why I think that might not be the way). Ready to break the pattern, apply to work with me: https://confidencechris.com/mentorship-application Chapters: 00:00 My New Approach to Dating 11:03 Voice Note: Dating the Right Person, Cut Him Off, Then Guilt Tripped 38:55 Intensity vs Actual Intimacy

I saw a video this week that said people who lack empathy are garbage, and it triggered me into a rabbit hole about narcissism. This will be confrontational and controversial, but really my goal is to give you an alternate perspective on how this is defined in our culture and the dynamics that are created by both partners. I get into why the person giving and giving is also being selfish, and how/why your resentment is an indicator. I walk through a listener situation where the guy starts to distance himself after he gets emotionally vulnerable. I'll give you my take on why this happens and how to let go when it does. Remember, empathy is not responsibility. Ready to break the pattern, apply to work with me: https://confidencechris.com/mentorship-application Chapters: 0:00 Narcissists vs Victims 34:07 When Empathy Goes Too Far 37:47 Handling Resentment 45:44 Angry When Someone Stops Choosing You 52:29 Listener's Situation: Distance After Getting Too Close

Isn’t it crazy how those shorter relationships can hit way harder than the longer ones? Today I reflect on this, and what would happen if that person ever came back. I then lean into how my views of compatibility vs. chemistry have shifted, while still battling guilt when I admit and enforce my high standards. I then get into whether I still deal with imposter syndrome, perfectionism, and procrastination. Yes, but no, and I’ll share how to overcome them. I then go in on whether or not you should admit your feelings to your FWB. Is the gateway to peace of mind really blowing shit up? Ready to break the pattern, apply to work with me: https://confidencechris.com/mentorship-application Chapters: (00:00) Introduction (04:11) Why Short Relationships Hit So Hard (34:50) Imposter Syndrome and Self-Sabotage (53:06) Confessing Your Feelings to Your FWB

If you have anxious attachment, this episode is going to be a gut punch, but a necessary one. The truth is, most people don't have a feeling problem, they have a thinking problem. I'll show you what you can't see about chasing and caring for someone who doesn't seem to show the same energy back. Let's get into it. This week I'm fresh off an emergency landing, and now I'm heading to Cancun for a wedding, but the stove is on hot. I answer two situations from my guys. The first one spent two years chasing a girl who barely gave effort. I'll deep dive his and her final response. I'll walk you through the white t-shirt exercise that shows what's really controlling your dating life. The second situation is about a guy who can't seem to shake the feeling he messed things up. Then a situation about waiting on a partner to step up financially, and why your body already has that answer. I'll teach you how to get out of your head, feel your truth, and own it. Ready to break the pattern, apply to work with me:…

So I broke my celibacy, and may have pulled my groin in the process. This somehow spun off into an analogy about how I got the ick from cigarettes and letting go of toxic relationships (aka emotional cigarettes), trust me it’s sensational. Then I get into the situation everyone obsesses over: is it insecure to want your partner to unfollow people on social media, or is your gut telling you something real? I break down the difference between soothing your fear through control and what trusting someone actually looks like. I close on whether the real work happens in a relationship or out of one. Ready to break the pattern, apply to work with me: https://confidencechris.com/mentorship-application

So this was a very unexpected week to say the least. I saw the most attractive girl I've seen in years, didn't shoot my shot, and came home feeling like shit. I'll talk about why and the importance of taking the risk. This then leads into a story about an unexpected new connection that caught me off guard. It's crazy how the smallest moments can shine a light on your internal fears and triggers. I'll share how deep my anxious avoidance still runs: the waiting, the phone checking, and how I soothe myself through it now instead of punishing myself for my fear. I'll also discuss how to navigate judgment from those closest to you, and then I close with a situation about why it's so hard to move on from a relationship that made you miserable. Ready to break the pattern, apply to work with me: https://confidencechris.com/mentorship-application

This is going to be a Dear Diary episode. A podcast journal of how I am feeling at my core. I've been in a mini funk, but somehow it's also the most peace I've felt in my life in a long time. The duality of it all ... Really what's happening is that I'm emotionally celibate, and that's brought me an enormous amount of clarity, but also this weird blank page feeling. I get honest about feeling lonely (not the desperate kind), being uninspired even though I love my life, and being at the point where I'm established and ready to actually enjoy it with somebody. Then I shift gears to a situation about someone going slow with a girl who isn't offering what they really want, and we get into how easily people back off their truth because they want to be wanted, and how everybody's managing everybody else's expectations, and why most of us don't even see our own inauthenticity. Ready to break the pattern, apply to work with me: https://confidencechris.com/mentorship-application

To be real, last week I hadn't been feeling my best. I care about showing up confident (and not looking weak), so I tend to mask those feelings. That's how our conversation starts. I get into detail about why I am the way I am. I'll walk you through how I grew up insecure and rebellious, all the way till now, and why I still deeply crave attention. I then shift gears to a situation sent in by a listener around if cheaters actually change. I will share her story of how she had been living a lie with this man and why many people are attracted to dishonesty. All of this ties back to our own internal beliefs and attachment patterns that shape who we are and how we show up in our lives and relationships today. Ready to break the pattern, apply to work with me: https://confidencechris.com/mentorship-application

The real work begins, not when you decide to leave, but directly after. It’s the weeks and days following that force you to face yourself and face your fears. Today, we are talking about getting back on your feet, leaving guilt and proving behind, and the real glow up post breakup. Maybe they are with someone new, maybe you are just determined to let go, today’s episode is a direct challenge to take the risk of choosing yourself.Ready to break the pattern, apply to work with me: https://confidencechris.com/mentorship-application

Why is it so hard to let go when you know something isn't right? Last episode I told you I ended my situationship, and this time it feels final. In this episode, I share how difficult it is to actually separate and how no contact gets harder before it gets easier. I start off with a question about not being ready to commit, and how I called Jay in a panic to "talk me off the ledge" when I was feeling overwhelmed with doubt and potential regret. I answer a few listener situations about people stuck in situationships they can't seem to leave, and I break down why it's sometimes easier to settle. I am going to really challenge your feelings in this episode, be prepared to face your fear and question your current choices. Ready to break the pattern, apply to work with me: https://confidencechris.com/mentorship-application

Something major is shifting in my love life. Today I am going to share with you a few personal stories, about letting go of a situationship, guilty feelings after a hookup, and ending old habits. Before that my friend asked me about the pettiest thing that gives me the ick, and if I get more icked out now that I am shifting to looking for love versus sex. I will discuss why people are dishonest in relationships and why people struggle to create peace in their relationships. I will also respond to a situation about talking to multiple people if you are still single. Can you date with intention and still allow yourself to be a little messy? Ready to break the pattern, apply to work with me: https://confidencechris.com/mentorship-application

Is intense chemistry actually a bad thing? In today's episode, I'll share a listener's dilemma around this trending idea that chemistry doesn't matter at all. I break down what exactly chemistry and compatibility mean to me, and how they work in tandem with each other. I'll relate it to a client story about falling hard for someone despite massive red flags, and why anxious people can mistake activated nervous systems for chemistry. This will then lead us down a road deeper than this discussion around why you even want a relationship in the first place. I answer a situation about a guy wanting to reach out to his ex and why you might have the urge to rekindle something with someone who didn't desire you. Can you face your fear of being insignificant to this person? Is your happiness limited to one experience? Ready to break the pattern, apply to work with me: https://confidencechris.com/mentorship-application

Why are you staying in that inconsistent relationship? Is it really because you have hope things will be different or is it actually because you have something to prove? I start today's episode by answering if it's "wrong" to reach out after being ghosted. I will then tackle two situations side-by-side about women who are in identical hot-and-cold multi-year situationships. I'll breakdown why inconsistent relationships are so addicting, how to emotionally detach, and explore whether or not you are being manipulated or if you are being too much. I'll also answer a question about catching feelings hard early on in relationships. Today is going to be a massive reality check with a philosophical twist (such as what is wrong and right, and societal standards). You are going to love this one. Ready to break the pattern, apply to work with me: https://confidencechris.com/mentorship-application

Can you have a healthy relationship with someone who originally ghosted you? In this episode, I break down why ghosting creates such a lack of safety that it fucks the relationship up, and why people ghost in the first place. I answer two listener situations, one about a girl who got ghosted after three dates and can't stop wondering why he didn't reach out, and another about a guy who might still have feelings for his ex. Let me help you feel your feelings and learn to how to honor yourself as you've never done before. Ready to break the pattern, apply to work with me: https://confidencechris.com/mentorship-application

You can change, but really how much? In this episode, I share my vulnerable feelings about my current dating life, where I am, how I got here, and why I would describe myself as "serial monogamous without dating." I'll describe how I am doing the work to combat my avoidance, become more grounded, and set myself up for finding genuine love. I also unpack how much your upbringing impacts who you are and how to change the patterns that keep you stuck. It's real, it's funny, and it's personal. Ready to break the pattern, apply to work with me: https://confidencechris.com/mentorship-application

When you treat a man well and you're consistent, they don't like you, but the ones you don't like are in love with you. What gives? This week, I break down dating's million-dollar question: Why are guys so interested in women who don't put in any effort? Is it attachment style or is it just how men are wired? I'll walk you through my full dissertation on the chase, value, and why we want what we can't have. I also answer a direct question about whether it's your avoidant attachment or if you're just not into them. You guys aren't going to want to miss this one. Ready to break the pattern, apply to work with me: https://confidencechris.com/mentorship-application

And just like that we are back baby. I went on my retreat, where I learned so much. I'll walk you through the whole experience, from being so down bad the week before I left (numbing myself hard), all the way through the cheese and mayo sandwiches we ate during the week, as well as the biggest takeaways I had. My view of myself is different. I feel enlightened, my energy has shifted, and I know how to handle myself so much more. It was like summer camp for geeky men who want to deepen their understanding of self. The things I'll do for self-growth. Ready to break the pattern, apply to work with me: https://confidencechris.com/mentorship-application

Quick heads up, but I will be gone next week for a 7-day consciousness retreat. In this episode, I talk about going through scarcity in both relationships and finances, stressed nights where I can't sleep, and a book someone sent me about the power of the subconscious mind. I'll talk about self-discovery and how to use your most important currency (attention) to further understand yourself. I'll break down why it's so hard to change someone's perception of you, and if you should let your avoidant ex back in. Ready to break the pattern, apply to work with me: https://confidencechris.com/mentorship-application

What's more important your goals or your peace? Do you feel you can only have one or the other? Today I attack the difference between wanting and needing something, and the desire for success/relationships while still being grounded in the present. I also bought a DJ set I couldn't afford even with no end goal in sight. I answer listener questions about men not being intentional, hitting up your ex, and why dating feels insane right now. Ready to break the pattern, apply to work with me: https://confidencechris.com/mentorship-application

You don’t just want a relationship … you want a relationship with someone attractive, with solid values, who can actually meet you where you are. If you want that type of love you need to have a level of confidence that lives up to the request. In this episode, I'll talk about why I feel more confident than I've ever have (despite worse external results). I’ll break down the difference between being intentional versus calculated, why you need to get comfortable being misunderstood, and how to practice being vulnerable. I answer listener questions about early dating confidence, handling rejection, and overcoming the fear of being perceived. To be more comfortable being yourself, you got to be yourself. Ready to break the pattern, apply to work with me: https://confidencechris.com/mentorship-application

I was definitely yelling a little bit this episode, but sometimes you guys like that shit. I share a lot of great nuggets about living in the now and understanding how our mental fantasies keep us trapped. I talk about my recent feelings of disconnection and how I processed those emotions to understand where I needed to take a risk. I'll break down why you need to stop asking questions and start making statements about what you want, and how to navigate dating speed without losing yourself. Today, you will learn to ask the hard questions and get really honest about what you want. Work with me, subscribe to my Substack, or find out your dating personality: ⁠⁠⁠https://confidencechris.com/links⁠

I used to feel so anxious and insecure. My life was filled with drama, but now I'm realizing it's hard to find many moments when I don't feel peace. In this episode, I'll talk about how every struggle in your life is self-inflicted, why drama isn't happening to you, and how to break free from the insecurity and anxiousness that is destroying your life. I'll address questions around rejection oversensitivity, comparing yourself to your ex's new partner, and why you keep attracting avoidant men. Work with me, subscribe to my Substack, or find out your dating personality: ⁠⁠⁠https://confidencechris.com/links⁠

In this episode, we're going to start surface level, and then we're going to get deep. I start by talking about leaving corporate life and never looking back, then I'll reflect on a question about what men learn when they sleep around a lot. Then we get into the hard stuff. Why do you feel lonely? Why do you feel like a burden? I'll talk about the deep work of eliminating loneliness from your life and what it means to believe you're significant even when nobody's around. I'll break down the difference between living from survival versus wholeness, why you need to get comfortable with the mundane, and how to stop needing external validation to feel whole. Work with me, subscribe to my Substack, or find out your dating personality: ⁠⁠⁠https://confidencechris.com/links⁠

What do you want? Not on the surface, I'm talking deep in your soul... In this episode, I'll talk about the uncomfortable introspection of being alone with yourself, how love is confused with attention, and what I believe love truly is. I'll talk about being honest with people even when it's hard, and how difficult it is to live in your truth. I answer listener questions about avoidant men wanting to be friends after they've already rejected a relationship, telling someone to their face that you're not that interested, and how to navigate your own feelings of insecurity when it comes to wanting and asking for commitment from your situationship. Work with me, subscribe to my Substack, or find out your dating personality: ⁠⁠⁠https://confidencechris.com/links⁠

She apologized for not texting me back, then didn't text me back at all. In this episode, I get into what happens when someone you're down for gets inconsistent and why your reaction to it matters more than theirs. I break down the exact regulation technique I use to calm down my nervous system. I also share a powerful client story about a woman who realized she's been using relationships to regulate her nervous system her entire life, and why that's keeping her stuck in situationships. Then I respond to a listener navigating feelings for a coworker who didn't choose her. This episode is about understanding your relationship triggers and becoming way more grounded through their bullshit. Work with me, subscribe to my Substack, or find out your dating personality: ⁠⁠⁠https://confidencechris.com/links⁠

A girl didn't text me back for 12 hours, and my stomach dropped. In this episode, I get raw about the self-doubt that creeps in when I put myself out there, and why the smallest rejection can trigger the deepest fear. I break down how to actually feel your feelings instead of just thinking about them, why self-improvement is often driven by insecurity, and what scares me most about committing to someone. I also answer fire questions from a listener about my dating patterns, what I look for in a partner, and my longest relationship. If you've ever felt that pit in your stomach when someone doesn't text back, I'll show you exactly how to handle it. Work with me, subscribe to my Substack, or find out your dating personality: ⁠⁠⁠https://confidencechris.com/links⁠

What happens when you're honest, vulnerable, and real... and still don't get what you want? Let's talk about showing up authentically and why it doesn't always work out the way you hope. I'll share two raw stories from my own life: getting stood up after putting myself out there, and ending things with someone I genuinely cared about because something just wasn't aligned. I break down why most people don't actually know how they feel (spoiler: thinking isn't feeling) and why your fear of being "too much" is really just fear of not being enough. I also walk through a listener situation about feeling worthless after a guy asks for space. If you've ever felt like you're the problem, been scared to speak from the heart, or stayed in something that felt good but wasn't right, this one's for you. Work with me, subscribe to my Substack, or find out your dating personality: ⁠⁠⁠https://confidencechris.com/links⁠

I've been feeling different lately, at peace, confident, secure. Today, I will reflect on the reason I feel so present, and how you can too. I'll discuss how your desires, such as wanting a family, a relationship, and success, can hinder your happiness, but also your progress. Then I get into your questions: what to do when you’re feeling anxious over delayed texts, I'll discuss how to calm yourself down and handle the emotion in the moment. I'll talk about how true security is so much more than just feeling confident all the time. Then I'll touch on what to do when you're not physically attractive to them, and how to handle the excitement of meeting someone new, and how to not get too ahead of yourself. Work with me, subscribe to my Substack, or find out your dating personality: ⁠⁠https://confidencechris.com/links

Have you ever been surrounded by people (even in a relationship) and still felt alone? That’s because loneliness isn’t about being alone, it's what happens when your sense of self is tied to something outside of you … so when connection disappears, you feel like you disappear. In this episode, I break down why most people feel lonely, why we’re scared of it, and how a lot of us are way more codependent than we think (we just call it “love” or “attachment” to make it sound prettier). I also asked you guys what you’re battling internally in your love life right now, and I respond to the stuff I see nonstop: why being single after a long relationship feels brutal, why it’s so hard to let go when someone makes you feel whole for the first time in forever, and why the second they switch up, you’re desperate to get that feeling back. Then I get into what “doing the work” actually is. This episode is a bid to help you start trusting yourself and letting go of the fear of being misunderstood. Work with me, sign up…

People think self-love is taking yourself on a date or going to the gym, but that's just the surface. In this episode, I share what true self-love is and how to practice it. I'll break down the difference between desire and attachment, and I'll go through the components of our emotions and how we project our feelings onto others instead of owning them ourselves. I share a specific example of how I was triggered in my relationship, how I reacted (needy, angry), and had to take a step back and work through my reaction. Through my personal example, I'll help you unpack your triggers and fears in a relationship and how to overcome them. It's a brand new season (and new year), buckle up because we are going deeper than ever before. Work with me, sign up for the newsletter, or take the dating quiz: ⁠⁠https://confidencechris.com/

Last episode of the year, it has been a heck of a journey, and we have a great one for you. I start with a personal story of letting go of unintentional connections and the difference between high standards and seeking perfection. I'll tell you why your situationship might seem okay, but how it might actually be blocking you from true love. Speaking of which, I then share a powerful conversation I had with two close guy friends, one recently engaged, and how hearing him talk about feeling inspired by his partner shifted something big for me (I think it will for you too). Finally, I then reflect on: “I’m single and healed… and now I don't want anyone." We will see about that! See you on the otherside. Work with me, sign up for the newsletter, or take the dating quiz: ⁠⁠https://confidencechris.com/

Don't tell me you love me if you want to keep me ... In this episode, I dive deep into how softness and avoidance go hand in hand. How everyone is a mirror and how our patterns keep replaying in dating without realizing it. I'll show you why you attract people who can’t fully meet you, why vulnerability feels risky even when it’s the thing we want most, and how the people we date end up reflecting the parts of ourselves we’re still avoiding. Work with me, sign up for the newsletter, or take the dating quiz: ⁠⁠https://confidencechris.com/

Isn’t it funny how the “prize” for being such a boss is you now take care of everything? In this episode, I get into what healthy masculine and feminine energy actually look like in real life: direction, stability, container vs. receptivity, amplification, flow. I'll discuss why so many strong, high-performing women end up stuck in their masculine without realizing it (and spoiler, it’s not because you’re “too much). I walk through an 8-year relationship story to show you how breadcrumbs work, how your identity gets tied to hope, and how mixed signals are just an avoidance of the truth. Work with me, sign up for the newsletter, or take the dating quiz: ⁠⁠https://confidencechris.com/

You call it chemistry, your nervous system calls it chaos. I cover a bunch of your situationship questions such as: how soon is too soon, how long is too long, when detachment feels impossible, toxic exs, divorce, empty I love yous, ghost sightings, and finally standing up. This isn't just about situationships, it's a masterclass in letting go of everything you thought you knew about who you are and stepping into the most authentic version of yourself. Today, you are done chasing to be chosen. Work with me, sign up for the newsletter, or take the dating quiz: ⁠⁠https://confidencechris.com/

Why do you step back when someone finally shows up? Why does safety feel like danger? I’m breaking down avoidance (specifically in women) and all the ways you self-sabotage when you meet a potential good connection. We also dig into the questions you sent in about the pressure surrounding social media in dating, from following Insta models to snooping through his following list. I also share my thoughts on watching p~rn in relationships. Work with me, sign up for the newsletter, or take the dating quiz: ⁠⁠https://confidencechris.com/

You're laid back, low maintenance, and you don't need much. The only issue is that you struggle with finding that balance of receiving the energy that you want. I'll talk about how to confidently communicate your feelings without losing your place. I will discuss why men pull away after months of consistency. If you're feeling like you're doing everything right but still not getting what you want, this is for you. Work with me, sign up for the newsletter, or take the dating quiz: ⁠⁠https://confidencechris.com/

Your ego is about to get rocked, for real. This episode is a deeper look at what ego actually is (which is generally misunderstood). I'll talk about the different ways it manifests in relationships, how your personality is shaped by it, and how to live beyond it (and/or how to make it stronger and healthier). This episode is a wake-up call for anyone who is still stuck holding onto someone they know is not right for them. Work with me, sign up for the newsletter, or take the dating quiz: ⁠⁠https://confidencechris.com/

Last week, I talked about how you need to challenge a man in order to get him to stay over the long haul. This week, I'll deep dive into what it truly means to be the woman he can't help but respect. I'll also provide you with another tool that you can use to generate instant confidence and build the life you want faster. Visualize what you want, embody the person you want to receive, and watch your world change. Work with me, sign up for the newsletter, or take the dating quiz: ⁠⁠https://confidencechris.com/

You know those phases in life where you’re torn between building your dream and building a life with someone? This episode gets deep down into how avoidance shows up in men, what they are actually thinking when they pull back, and why so many people are chasing achievement to fill a void they don’t even see. I also share a personal story of how I stood firm in my boundaries and truth with an avoidant. Today is a giant journey through my brain on the intersection of validation, success, and finding true love. Work with me, sign up for the newsletter, or take the dating quiz: ⁠⁠https://confidencechris.com/

Let’s take you through the mind of an avoidant, a self-aware one at that. I’ll discuss why getting the ick might be a form of unconscious self-sabotage, why our society craves fake love, and how to better regulate and communicate as an avoidant. If you ever catch yourself missing someone who is not choosing you, let me teach you how to change the narrative and start attracting people who are actually available. Work with me, sign up for the newsletter, or take the dating quiz: ⁠⁠https://confidencechris.com/